Gratitude: it’s one of those words that gets tossed around like confetti at a wedding, yet somehow it feels underrated. We all know we should be grateful, but let’s be honest, it’s easier said than done when life feels like an endless hamster wheel. But here’s the thing: gratitude is not just a fluffy concept or a hashtag for Instagram captions. It’s a game-changer, a mindset shifter, and possibly the ultimate antidote to that creeping envy we all experience.

Gemma Lea Edelman is here today to talk about why gratitude could be our secret weapon against everyday envy and chaos.

The Reality Check: Gratitude vs Envy

Let’s start with envy. We’ve all felt it. You’re scrolling through social media, and there it is—someone’s perfect family holiday, their new promotion, or their spotless kitchen that looks like a magazine shoot. Cue the pang of why not me? Envy loves to steal the show, turning our focus onto what’s missing rather than what’s already in front of us. This is where gratitude steps in, waving a big neon sign that says, Look at your own life, love. There’s plenty to be thankful for.

When we practise gratitude, we’re training our minds to shift away from comparison and towards appreciation. It’s not about ignoring the tough stuff or pretending everything’s perfect; it’s about recognising the good—even if it’s as tiny as your morning cup of tea or a quiet moment to breathe.

How Gratitude Changed My Game

When I first stumbled across the idea of gratitude that is offered in Positive Psychology, I have to admit that I was sceptical. Gratitude sounded too simple to make a difference. But then I tried it: three good things every evening. At first, it felt forced. “I’m grateful for tea” (obviously) or “I’m grateful for not falling flat on my face today.” But over time, it clicked. I started noticing more—small wins, lovely moments, and even the challenges that taught me something.

Now, gratitude has become a daily anchor, a way to remind myself not to get swept up in the whirlwind of doing and achieving. On days when envy threatens to creep in, gratitude pulls me back.

Morning, Evening, or Whenever It Feels Right

There’s no one-size-fits-all approach to gratitude, and that’s what makes it beautiful. Some people swear by morning gratitude as a way to kick start their day. I’ve found that taking a moment in the morning to appreciate even the tiniest things—like the fact that I can press snooze on my alarm—sets the tone for the day.

Others prefer evenings, using gratitude as a way to wind down and reflect. Then there are those who mix it up, practising gratitude whenever it feels right. Whether you journal, snap a quick photo, or just take a mental note, the key is finding a method that feels natural: a method that works for you.

Gratitude as an Antidote to Chaos

Life gets busy—trust me, I know. There are days when the to-do list feels endless, and the temptation to stay on the hamster wheel is strong. Gratitude reminds us to pause, to breathe, and to reconnect with what really matters.

It’s not about pretending life is perfect; it’s about finding those small, steadying moments of joy amidst the chaos. And when envy sneaks in, gratitude gently whispers, Your life is yours—look how rich it already is.

Start Today

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, envious, or just a little stuck, give gratitude a go. Start small—three good things, one moment of stillness, a single snapshot of something that makes you smile. It doesn’t have to be perfect; it just has to be yours.

Gratitude isn’t a magic wand, but it is a mindset. And in this world, that often feels obsessed with what we lack, it’s a powerful way to remember all that we have.

So, what are you grateful for today?

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Natalie